Compassion is the sympathy for the suffering of others and the desire to free them from it. Yet, how does one become a compassionate person and how can we try to live life from a generous heart, when we live in a world that often encourages us to focus on our own needs?
The Dalai Lama believes that every human being has an innate desire for happiness and does not want to suffer. He also believes that the purpose of this life is to experience this happiness. Our true human values, underneath our needs to achieve what we desire in our material world, are qualities like sharing with one another and caring for one another.
Altruism means a sense of caring for others and developing an attitude that our own individual concerns are less important than those of others. Love, compassion and forgiveness are basic human values that we would do well in trying to nurture within ourselves on a daily basis. Usually when faced with problems, we look at them from our own point of view. But to look at the situation from others' angles or with a wider perspective, can create compassion. We can see that we are all seeking to achieve happiness, we are no different, it is better that we solve this mutually, rather than creating disharmony and fighting. By recognising that the mind can be changed, that we can change our attitudes by using different thought processes, we can transform our minds from negative thinking to compassion. Meditation is an effective training of the mind which allows us to connect to our heart and develope our compassion. Human emotions are very powerful and sometimes overwhelm us. But if we can distance ourselves from these strong emotions before they arise in us, we can see them for what they are and that they will too pass.
If you can develope patience, tolerance, peacefulness and calm in your mind, these are signs of strength. The difficult times in your life provide the best opportunities to gain inner strength and develope a warm heart. The Dalai Lama suggests that as long as we are part of human society, it is very important to be a kind, warm-hearted person. This beautiful poem, sums it up:
May the poor find wealth,
Those weak with sorrow find joy,
May the forlorn find new hope,
Constant happiness and prosperity.
May the frightened cease to be afraid,
And those bound be free.
May the weak find power,
And may their hearts join in friendship.
Understanding automatic pilot
We operate on automatic pilot most of the time, floating along in life from activity to activity, not really paying attention and one day it's all going to pass us by and we never really were truly present. We think the same thoughts, we react unnecessarily when things don't go as planned and we create stress in our minds and bodies. But the good news is that there is a way out of these habitual patterns.
Doing mode is what most of us operate from most of the times. We work, we have tasks to do, things to achieve, people to see and we do this mostly on automatic pilot, without really thinking about it all. We get to the end of the day and it has gone so quickly and we wonder why? Because we have been lost in our heads in this doing mode all day at such a fast pace. And we are beginning to realise that staying in your head space all day, without taking a break from it, can cause many health problems in the body and in the mind.
Being mode is when you connect with the present moment. You become aware of all your senses. You bring your head energy down to the heart, which is where the true 'you' lives, you become aware of your emotions and thoughts but without getting caught up in them. You accept things for what they are, rather than what you think they are, which is often based on past fears or future worries. You can step into this mode at any given moment, it doesn't require years of practice.
Combining being with doing
And once you learn how to 'be' more and 'do' less, you can combine the two, to create a more harmonious life. We all need to do things but you can come out of the automatic pilot of doing and embrace more of the being, and really start noticing what is going on around you. Life will flow in a more slower and smoother way, with less stress and less distractions from the external world and an increased ability to connect with your internal world.
How can we do this?
By learning to meditate, learning to live mindfully, learning to appreciate the simple things in life, learning to let go of past concerns and future worries and learning how to connect with the present moment.
A simple daily breath meditation is a great way to start. Your mind will start to quieten and your thoughts will slow down and you will begin to discover the beauty of just being, rather than doing everything on automatic pilot.
Message me for more information on meditation practice, which I now offer as a home visit.
The freedom to move our joints is something we take for granted but over time, our ability to do this lessens. Ageing, injury, the menopause, over-use of a particular area, can all result in limited mobility and sometimes pain and an onset of conditions such as arthritis.
How can we keep our joints mobilised, flexible and in full-working order? One of the ways is to use an Ayurveda oil to massage the key areas. Ayurveda works on the principle of three 'doshas' - vata, pita and kapha. We have these 3 elements in our body and by keeping them in balance, we keep our bodies in balance, thus preventing illness and disease. With a busy lifestyle, stress, lack of exercise and a poor diet, our doshas can easily become out-of-balance and this is when we may start to feel achey joints as one of the results of imbalance.
The vata part of our body is the key part which affects our joints. It is related to coldness, stiffness and roughness. It explains why our bodies get stiff when they feel cold. So when we have a massage, it increases warmth in our body and joints and balances out the vata part. An Ayurvedic oil such as the one I use in my Ayurveda Massage contains 37 Ayurvedic herbs to specifically warm the body and pacify excess vata in the body.
Another way to balance vata in the body is to do gentle exercise, such as Yoga or Tai Chi, which will help support your joints and flexibility. Gentle walking will also help circulate oxygen around the joints and keep them supple.
Adding anti-inflammatory herbs to your diet, such as turmeric, ginger and cinnamon, can help support healthy circulation and tissue support.
Boswellia (Indian Frankincense) is a great Ayurvedic supplement, which is well-known for it's anti-arthritic, pain-relieving and anti-arthritic properties.
Why not try an Ayurveda Massage today. £45 for 1 hour. Your joints will thank you!
CBD is fast becoming the most talked about thing in the natural alternatives field. I have been taking it myself and I have discovered that using it in a massage brings about amazing benefits to the treatment. But first, a small introduction into CBD, to help you decide if adding it to your treatment is something you would like to try.
What is CBD?
CBD or cannabinoid is a non-psychoactive component of the cannabis or hemp plant that has been reported to help reduce stress, anxiety, and inflammation and it doesn't get you high! It's close relative THC is the part of the plant that does have psychoactive properties.
What is The Endocannabinoid System?
In the late 1980s, scientists discovered that we have cannabinoid receptors (CB1 and CB2) in every organ system of the human body. In the early 90s, they discovered the Endocannabinoid system, which is a signalling system between the CB1 and CB2 receptors. This Endocannabinoid system is essential for maintaining homeostasis - the balance between interdependant elements in the body. It plays a huge role in sleep, mood, appetite, memory and fertility. Basically, our bodies are designed to work with cannabinoids and they can even be considered as essential to our overall health and wellbeing.
As we age, the systems in our body break down and this, alongside stress, can cause an imbalance in the Endocannabinoid system. If it is not functioning at it's best, it can create a whole host of health issues. By supporting our Endocannabinoid system with CBD, it can help with many problems including: arthritis, multiple sclerosis, pain relief, anxiety, epilepsy, muscular tension, sleep problems. For a massage, because it has anti-inflammatory and pain-relieving properties, it will undoubtedly enhance your treatment and leave you feeling even more relaxed.
How will it affect my massage?
A CBD massage works so well due to the abundance of CB receptors in the skin itself. The highest concentration of CB receptors is in the nervous and digestive systems, but the skin has a huge number of both CB1 and CB2 receptors in the cutaneous nerve bundles, mast cells, and epidermal keratinocytes, as well as the epithelial cells in the hair follicles and also in the sweat and sebaceous glands. This means that topical applications of even small amounts of CBD can have quite significant effects when it comes to local pain relief as those cells can quite quickly absorb and make use of the CBD as its applied.
Is it legal?
Yes in the UK, CBD is legal and will not show up on a drugs test. The product I use is Captain Jacks CBD Massage Oil which has 10% CBD in it and less than 0.3% of THC in it, which is the industry standard.
Is it safe?
CBD is perfectly safe but if you are taking any medication, I would suggest speaking to your GP to ask their advice or have a look online to see what others are saying.
So, why not try CBD in your next massage and feel the difference for yourself. £45 for 1 hour.
Why I became a Holistic Therapist
So this is my first ever blog! And what better way to start off than by introducing myself properly, for those of you who haven't already met me and are thinking about inviting me into your home for your treatment.
My journey into the world of alternative therapies began almost 25 years ago. Working in the corporate world of retail head office in London and leading a very busy lifestyle and not looking after any part of my wellbeing and health, I started having anxiety and panic attacks almost on a daily basis. A GP I went to told me to stop being silly and to blow into a brown paper bag if I had an attack and sent me on my way. At the time, this felt like I was let down massively by the NHS and I turned to recreational drugs and alcohol to escape my feelings of dread, anxiety and fear that I was feeling on a daily basis. However, I now see that by not giving me medication forced me to find my own way to recovery through holistic therapies and alternative healing. My self-esteem and confidence was very low but because of the stigma behind mental health, I told very few people and hid behind a mask of someone who appeared to be very outgoing. I forced myself to do things, I was always a fighter but I wanted so badly to feel normal and feel me but I did not know how and I did not know who I truly was.
I moved to Portsmouth in 2000 and I met my soulmate, Scott, with whom I knew from our first meeting that we had a very deep spiritual connection and we continue to support each other on our healing journeys together. After the birth of my first son, Jude, in 2004, I started my Reflexology training at Highbury College, Portsmouth and I had a dream that one day I could help people feel relaxed so they would not have to experience what I was feeling. I completed my Reiki training when I was pregnant with my daugher, Saffron in 2006 and that year I also completed my Massage training at Highbury College. I also undertook a few other courses but I felt ready to start practicing, in between staying at home most of the time, looking after my children. I had a few treatment rooms that I worked from and I also started to meditate every day at home and with a weekly meditation group at The Quiet Mind Centre in Southsea. And it really did quiet my mind!
Meditation changed my life. I learned that I was not my thoughts, not my anxiety, not my panic attacks and that I couldn't escape them, but by fully opening up to them and accepting them for what they were, I could then truly heal. It was a very difficult journey and when I was pregnant with my third child, Lawson, I was still having panic attacks but determined to heal. I had a lot of help from various other healers and read so many self-help and spiritual books, practiced regular meditation and yoga, and believed so much in The Law of Attraction that I created a new me.
The last panic attack I had, when Lawson was still a baby lying next to me in his side-cot, was the worst and seemed to go on all night but I knew that it would be the last. I asked The Universe and The Angels and anyone else out there to help me release this once and for all from my being. And in the morning, I felt very exhausted but something huge had shifted in me. I knew that as long as I continued to look after my health and wellbeing with alternative healing, good sleep patterns, healthy food, gentle exercise (yoga) and positive thinking, I could keep my mental health in a good place from now on. And I'm still learning and growing every day. I have a thirst for knowledge about this subject of natural healing and as I learn, The Universe presents me with new challenges to grow, peeling away the onion layers to find the essence of who I AM.
And so now, I have been 3 years in the running of Sanctuary Home Healing and I am loving every minute of it. I am a firm believer in alternative healing and that we can use natural ways to heal ourselves and that by doing so, we are also healing those around us and the world! We are all part of each other, we all mirror each other, we are all here for a purpose. For me, the reason I believe I suffered with anxiety and panic attacks for over a decade is so that I can now help others. I now realise how we must never ignore our body and what it is telling us and that we must look after it, always, the physical, the mental, the emotional and the spiritual, for like us, they too are all connected.