Soul Sisters

This is a Man’s World…

Growing up in the 90’s meant that I, like many young women making their mark in life, had to adopt a very masculine energy to be seen and heard. We were just breaking out of the mould of societal conditioning of ‘children should be seen and not heard’ and girls should always say yes, keep quiet and stay behind any male energy in the home, school or office so as not to rock the boat. To make matters worse, I, like many young women in the 90’s experienced a power/control imbalance with males on a regular basis, stemming from an upbringing that led me to believe that we were the subservient sex, and I didn’t have a voice.

But it would be nothing, without a woman or a girl...

I am in no way a ‘feminist’, I have a loving husband and 2 wonderful boys (now teen and man!) who are very much a million miles away from the old archaic ways of male-dominated patterns and have grown up with loving, respecting, and honouring women. And I do have to thank my wonderful husband, Scott for this. He has changed immensely in the 24 years we have been together as I write this (July 2024) and he will proudly tell anyone that he is proud to be “under the thumb” and that his wife is the one in charge!

I made it…

It has taken a very long time and a lot of healing for me to be able to say with confidence that I am (at nearly 50 years old) the woman that I wanted to always be. Through working through my own mental and emotional patterns, healing a lot of darkness and adopting a tonne of self-care (without feeling guilty about that!) I have released the abused child, the dominated teenager, the reckless, anxiety-ridden 20-30 year old, the over-giving/exhausted/putting herself at the bottom of the pile 30-40 year old and finally as I approach 50, after having all this shit thrown at me like a tonne of bricks when I hit menopause a few years ago, I can safely say that I have survived and now thrive as a woman in this so-called “Man’s World”.

And so can you…

And now my life’s work is to help other women. To bring together women as Soul Sisters who are doing the same soul-work, healing the same wounds, breaking free from the same chains and stepping into their true authentic and bloody amazing selves!

 I didn’t have a Soul Sister when I was younger (I had a lovely sister but we didn’t connect very much, with me being the rebel one and her and my Mum not knowing how to relate or understanding why I was the way I was). Most of my friends were boys and then, when I moved to London in the 90’s to go to university/party, I had to adopt a very masculine energy just to survive each day in a stressful job in the most stressful city in the world where I lived in for 7 years. I softened when I became a mother 20 years ago. And I opened up to the feminine energy and met women at Mum’s Groups, I bonded more with my own Mum as I became a Mum and we had more in common, and with my sister too, as our daughters were born within a year of each other. I then started my massage business just for women and started working with women, with an intention of helping women feel relaxed so they didn’t feel the anxiety that I felt.

Soul Sisters

Soul Sisters is in its 2nd year and is a big part and my most favourite bit of my job. We meet monthly, one month is a Women’s Circle group and one month is a Meditation/Relaxation group. Both are as important as the other. As we leave behind old masculine ways of being that we have had to adopt to get anywhere in this busy life – like being competitive, being the best - the perfect mum/wife/worker, pushing ourselves to the limit, never stopping, often controlling, always giving – just so we feel good enough as a women – as we release these energies, we start to feel a little vulnerable, a bit lost, a bit wobbly because these things were our protectors. But we know deep down they must go, because the New Earth that is opening up for us encompasses more of the feminine energy that we buried so deep – compassion, self-care, self-love, gentleness, heart energy, acceptance, surrender, and flow. Big healing is needed and is happening on all levels for all women and we can not do it alone. To have a hand to hold, a hug to receive, a circle to share, a space to quieten our minds to connect with our hearts – this connection, this support, this nurturing, this safe space – these things are needed right now for women. All over the world, Circles and Women’s Groups are emerging and they are magical, wonderful, uplifting, supporting and nurturing and crucial for the rebalancing of the Masculine and Feminine energy in our collective consciousness.

Soul Sisters Circle

Soul Sisters Circle is for digging deep in your emotions, releasing mental patterns that have been holding you back, offloading your frustration and anger that you buried long ago, journalling and being creative, connecting with oracle cards for divine feminine guidance, talking, sharing, laughing, crying. But mostly it is about shared connections with other women who, somehow always seem to be having similar issues going on, and I believe are being guided to attend by a higher guidance, saying to their subconscious “go and be with other women and know you are not alone.” And I can not begin to tell you how not feeling alone is so important to help women heal. In the 90’s mental health was taboo, nobody knew about my anxiety, I felt very alone and took a long time to heal. Circle is about connection. Connection aides healing.

Soul Sisters Serenity

Souls Sisters Serenity is the bit that comes after the storm – the storms that may be erupting in our lives as we break the mould, heal from the past and step into our true authentic selves. That takes courage and a lot of energy and we all have very busy lives. We must balance this busy-ness and doing with quiet-ness and peace. Meditation was a huge part of my healing journey from anxiety and I love creating meditations now and bringing in soft, relaxing soothing music to accompany them. Relaxation is something we all need to do more of. We live in such a busy world and this won’t change as life speeds up, so it is just as important on a women’s healing journey to slow down and allow all the things that she has bravely changed to integrate. Meditation, breathwork, reiki, relaxation techniques, crystal sound healing bowls and a calm, serene space will help you feel deeply relaxed and nurtured, in this session.